Was my wifes cheating justified because of my ways?
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My wife and I have been married for 10 yrs, we also have 2 children together. For the past 8 yrs I have done nothing but party everyday after work till 9 or 10 at night then come home. Like I said, Ive done this everyday for the past 8 yrs. Also, I never go to her family events, I have cheated on her twice, I never help with the kids, I barely help pay bills, I never do anything with her and our kids, and I yell at her sometimes. Does me being this way give her the right to have an emotional or sexual affair? What would you do if your husband or wife was this way to you?
Looking for honest answers. Thanks
I forgot to mention that she has given me at least 50 times to change my ways or shes says she is leaving. I’m being honest with that amount too. I always called her bluff thinking should would never leave. Hell, it might even be 100+ times she told me that I better change my ways. I never did change my ways, not once.
How am I a troll for asking an honest question? No one really answered on the first time around, so I decided to try a second time. Stop being a bitch ass pussy, OK!
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Wow most Failed question today. I
Cheating is always unjustified and unjustifiable. If a person is not happy in a relationship then they should leave. Life is too short.
i think its time you had .a real good think about things dont you..how can you judge if you do as you say ..then complain when it comes back…sorry .i dont blame her ..its you i blame.. now to fix this ..is to look at her .and say i love you once more.. and hope she says the same back to you ..
Sounds like you are never really there for her or the kids. You were acting like you don’t have a family. I don’t think you were ready to have a family. I don’t blame her for finding someone else that could fill your spot. Two wrongs don’t make a right but she gave u so many chances to straighten up.
It sounds like she’s done all she could to keep the marriage together – and you’ve done all you could to put it asunder. -And now you ask us, “…does she have the right to have an emotional/sexual affair?” It isn’t as much about “rights” as you’ve pushed her to the brink; made it EASIER for her to give way to feelings of insecurity, hurt and inadequacy. In other words guy, you might just as well hand her another man to satisfy her needs and life, because you’ve clearly created the full blown situation for this to occur, if it has…
You candidly admit ALL your wrongdoing. You candidly say it’s all your doing – and yet you ask such a question?! Frankly? It’s unfortunate, but you’ve definitely are due for “reaping” what YOU’VE “sown”. If she has done one or the other or is about to? Well, you have only that guy looking back at you in the mirror to blame.
The saddest part of this whole story? You both have 10 years invested and more importantly? TWO CHILDREN. I think you’ve been a fool, a classless jerk with no moral compass, if not where your wife was concerned, dear God, certainly, your children…Believe me, you will pay dearly, and it is, just a matter of time…stay tuned guy…the worse may be yet to come…and you have only yourself to blame…
Grace
Well for starters, thanks for being so honest. But honestly, I can’t believe she hasn’t cheated on you sooner. As a woman, when someone treats me that way and love him with all my heart, I would be devastated if my husband was doing these things to me. Someone treated her nice, which is what she deserves, and there you go…affair..I can see why for sure. Does she even want to be with you still, or was it just a sexual thing. I don’t think your one to judge, but I also think two wrongs don’t make a right. I myself would have been divorced from you the moment I found out about an affair, or for you not giving a crap about helping with children and the house. Change your ways if you want to keep her, sounds like a good woman to me. You better look and realize what you have!
Yes, she’s justified. What’s good for the gander is good for the goose.
To wrongs don’t make a right. It isnt right of her to do that but come on what do you expect you get what you give. I feel sorry for her because i think she is a really good women you have there to put up with what you do. I personally would have dropped you a long time ago kids or not. I really think you should start looking at yourself as a person and decide to love and commit to your wife and kids like they deserve or leave her so she can find a better life for herself she deserves to be loved and not torn apart by the hurt you are causing. Maybe you should go to therapy to help you with your issues and iam not being rude i just think you want your cake and eat it to. I hope i could help abit and truely i wish you goodluck and hope you can make some better choices with you life